The INSIDER Summary:
- Two women sat down to discuss why they cheated on each other.
- The talk was emotional, and hard to watch at times.
- Ultimately, the women decided to stay together.
- It’s important to show that relationships can withstand cheating.
If you’ve ever been through a messy breakup, you know how awkward it can be to come across an ex’s Instagram post or bump into them in real life. So imagine having to sit down with someone who cheated on you, for all the internet to see.
In a new episode of The Scene, a video series from Condé Nast Entertainment, one couple did just that: they sat down, looked each other in the eyes, and came clean about their lies and infidelities.
Both women had cheated on each other: One woman even introduced the person she cheated with to her girlfriend before the infidelity happened. They were candid about how distance played a factor in both of their decisions to cheat and how deep their infidelities cut their relationship.
“It just made me question our entire relationship,” one woman said. “Like if this is where we’re going and if this is how things are being played out, then maybe we shouldn’t be together.”
But the women ended up staying together, saying that both of their infidelities made them realize that they actually wanted to be together and be committed to working on their relationship.
“I feel like when people hear ‘they cheated on me’ it’s immediately like, ‘why are you still with them? Like, you look dumb.’ And I think that’s it’s important to show that either you choose to fight for what you have or you choose to walk away,” one woman said. “In our situation, we chose to fight for it.”
Though it’s painful to watch, and may not make sense to a lot of people, it’s important to have this portrait of infidelity shown. Although exact statistics are hard to pin down, experts estimate that 22% of people who identify as men and 14% of people who identify as women have admitted to an infidelity.
The more we learn to view cheating as something that it’s OK to work through if you want, the more we can learn to accept people for the imperfect beings that they are.
You can watch the entire video below: